“Pickup 101″ Interview With Cajun [Video]

I just watched this video the other day of an interview Mark Sparks does with Cajun and its AWESOME.

Cajun is arguably one of the greatest pickup artists in the world and he drops some serious golden nuggets in this video.

Golden Nuggets

  • how to start a conversations with girls
  • how girls want to get picked up
  • how do GIRLS pick up guys (and how you can take advantage of it)
  • How to create a sexual frame so you don’t end up being the buddy buddy

…and a whole bunch of other stuff. Check it out:

Give me your thoughts – I’d love to know what you think.

It gets even MORE exciting when you start thinking about what you learned on Joshua’s video, don’t you think?

Vance

How to Please a Woman Physically and Emotionally

Do you want to know how to please a woman both physically and emotionally?

Anyone who has had any experience at all with women know that there are definitely some secrets to doing this.

This is evident in how most guys try and please their woman by going out of their way to cater to her needs, buying her gifts, structuring their lives around her…

Since you’re here I’m guessing you have discovered that that simply doesn’t work…in fact, it hurts your chances of getting with her/hurts your current relationship.

In this article I am going to go over some readily applicable tips to really attract her and build solid chemistry between the two of you.

The Hidden Truths About Attracting Women

What if I told you that the secret to pleasing a woman is to NOT go out of your way to try and please her?

This seems pretty counterintuitive, I know. But the truth is, women are frequently throwing out tests (known as shit tests in the pickup community) to see if you have a backbone or not; if you will stand for your dignity, beliefs and values or will you quickly change just to appeal to her.

It may seem like you’re doing the right thing. That you’re trying to “make her happy”. But bottom line is, women want a man who can protect them and take care of them, so they are attracted to men who have a backbone and aren’t easily “bossed” around.

A big key to knowing how to please a woman begins with knowing when she is testing you so you can stick fast to your own values and beliefs.

When you confidently stick to your own value and beliefs, your attraction value shoots up fast.

After all you’re showing the woman that you are a strong and in control man.

This is attractive.

The Emotional Side

Pleasing a woman emotionally is a perplexing task. To do so, you need to start understanding the indirect way women communicate. Guys are more logical and don’t really play any indirect communication “games”; we’re very straightforward for the most part.

Woman though are emotional and want you to see what they want by reading b/w the lines so you can meet those needs without her telling you to.

Seems like a tiring task doesn’t it? It would be unless you know what the two vital emotional needs of a woman are…

They are:
1) The need for certainty
2) The need to feel appreciated

It’s easy to tell that they are the most important if you simply pay attention to all the ads for women.

Things like make up and lotion and hair products. The corporations that write these advertisements spend millions of dollars to research what their buyers truly care about.

“FLAWLESS skin”. “BLEMISH free”.

Next time you’re confused as to what need your girl wants you to fulfill, just think to yourself: “Does she want to feel certain about something or does she want to feel appreciated/significant?”

The Physical Side

The truth is if you are able to fulfill her emotional needs and show her you have backbone (passing her shit tests), she will be very open to getting sexual with you.

In fact it’s actually been supported by many, many different people that one of the keys to making a girl orgasm is to have her emotional needs met.

So if you really want to learn how to please a woman physically, make sure her emotional needs are met.

(Remember: certainty and appreciation/significance)

The real truth is that you don’t really need to use some “special” technique in the bedroom to make her climax…what you really need is to make her emotionally satisfied so she can “give” herself to you.

I’m TELLING you. This is the way it is.

How To Create Chemistry And Connection With Women

Creating Chemistry…creating Connection

Remember women respond to emotion more than logic. They like to talk about how they think about things and feel about things

You ever find that girls will always talk about a problem and how she feels about it but then do nothing to solve it?

This is because while guys are solution oriented. Girls just want to be understood. They’re happy to just have someone to truly hear them out and feel them.

So here’s the key to creating chemistry: Use feel words.

Start focusing less on a particular topic and more on how you perceive and feel about a particular topic. I already covered this when I talked about the human experience but I’ll go over it again just because it’s so important.

 

Remember often times it’s hard for a woman to relate with you purely on a topic.

We’ll use soccer as an example.

Say you play soccer and the woman you’re talking to has no interest in soccer. Does that mean you can’t connect on this subject? No.

You just have to talk about soccer in a way that talks to the human experience. Talk about the camaraderie you feel when you’re with your teammates. Or the hard work and early morning practices you go through.

Talk about how it feels to word so hard and then win a game. Or even work so hard and lose a game only to come back stronger from the experience.

Talk about how it feels to just be so in the zone during a game. The nervousness you feel just before it.

The key is to talk about how you feel. Not only can woman relate to that. Most human beings can. This is the key to connecting with people!

Make her identify with what you’re saying. Our human experiences are very similar. Make her feel like she knows exactly what you are talking about.

David DeAngelo Kiss Test



Hands down one of the most well known dating experts is David DeAngelo. This guys has contributed so much to the attraction and pick up community.

I’ve personally learned a ton from him. One of the first things I’ve ever learned from him was his “kiss test”.

In short, it’s an accurate test to see whether or not a girl is ready/wants to be kissed. Really simple but really powerful stuff.

Here is is:

The David DeAngelo kiss test*

*I’ve added some additional points below with my thoughts.

“I used to have no idea if a woman was ready to be kissed.

I could be sitting there talking to her, thinking to myself “Wow, her lips really look nice…” but I didn’t know what to do next. This would often leave me kissless, and many times kissless for good, as I didn’t get another chance.

Here’s what I do now:

If I’ve been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she’s ready to be kissed, I’ll reach over and touch her hair while we’re talking and make a comment about it. I’ll say “Your hair looks so soft” and just touch the tips of it.

If she smiles and likes this, I’ll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she’s ready to be kissed.

By using “The Kiss Test” I’ve been kind and complimentary, but by being very SUBTLE about it, I haven’t given her anything she can object to. I now have a way of knowing if she’s ready to be kissed that NEVER gets me rejected—and I know within 5 minutes what it used to take me hours or days to figure out…”

Click Here To Read More Of David DeAngelo’s Material

The David DeAngelo kiss test was one of the first kiss tests I have ever tried. It’s a good one. I think the key here is the increasing of sexual tension that is created when you touch her hair and glance at her lips and eyes. That’s really the essence of the David DeAngelo kiss test. In fact…

The key to any good kiss test is really the increasing of sexual tension. You want to introduce sexual tension and see whether she is comfortable or uncomfortable with it. I wrote another article Kiss Tests that shows you how to create this sexual tension without the need for words.

It’s what I believe to be the ultimate kiss test because it’s virtually fail proof. You probably want to read it ;] Check it out- Kiss Tests

Text Message Flirting Ideas


Texting is a great way to practice your conversation skills because it’s more “slow motion” but still real time in a way. You have more time to think.

In this article I’m going to give you some text message flirting ideas but before I do that we need to cover some text message flirting guidelines.

1. In general keep your response time the same as hers. In other words, if she takes 20 minutes to reply, don’t text back the second she texts you. You’ll come off as too eager.

2. Use emoticons (those smiley faces ).

3. When telling stories you want to use descriptive words.

4. Don’t try and build the relationship primarily through texting. The reason being, there’s no human element to texting so it’s not the same feeling and also you may be moving forward in terms of language but your physical escalation will not be in sync.

For example, in the past I used to text a woman and get her all attracted me. I would use role playing and other attraction techniques to make her laugh and whatnot.

I would get her saying how she wanted to kiss me and all that…BUT when we actually met face to face, it just seemed somewhat awkward because the physical escalation was not in tune.

You should primarily be using texting to set up the next meet up.

With this said here are some text message flirting ideas to keep things sparked until you see her again.

Text Message Flirting Ideas List

Initiating The Conversation without the traditional “Hi whatsup”

“Poke”

“I hate you :-p”

“I just saw your twin”

“=]”

“Hmmm”

Click Here To Learn How To Make Her Never Flake On You Again!

Sending Mixed Signals

“Wow I’m not talking to you anymore :-p”

The formula is:

Negative comment + positive smiley face (or vice-versa)

 

Misc Text Message Flirting Ideas

-Text her letting her know that you’re thinking about her or that you miss her and then not respond for a few hours.

-Ask her what she’s doing right now and she’ll ask you what you are doing at that moment. But here’s the kicker. Leave it at that. The point is for you two to know what each other is doing at the moment and then get back to whatever you guys were doing.

However because of that little text, she’s thinking about you.

Like usual, you know what I’m going to say now…go practice ;]! Hope this helped.