“Pickup 101″ Interview With Cajun [Video]

I just watched this video the other day of an interview Mark Sparks does with Cajun and its AWESOME.

Cajun is arguably one of the greatest pickup artists in the world and he drops some serious golden nuggets in this video.

Golden Nuggets

  • how to start a conversations with girls
  • how girls want to get picked up
  • how do GIRLS pick up guys (and how you can take advantage of it)
  • How to create a sexual frame so you don’t end up being the buddy buddy

…and a whole bunch of other stuff. Check it out:

Give me your thoughts – I’d love to know what you think.

It gets even MORE exciting when you start thinking about what you learned on Joshua’s video, don’t you think?

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How To Tease A Girl

How do I tease a girl? Now that’s a question that I get asked often.

So in this article I’m going to explain to you why teasing a woman generates attraction and also how to tease a woman correctly and how not to.

I am also going to give you a few canned or “scripted” teases for you to get started with immediately. So without further ado…

The Why

Teasing a woman generates attraction for a number of reasons. First off it’s because it shows that you are not putting her on a pedestal.

You are man enough to bust her balls. Next it shows that you have humor and can create a light playful energy between you and her (this is attractive).

Finally, it shows that you can have fun and not take things so seriously.

The How (and How Not)

An effective tease should be humorous, playful and light. It should never be an insult. (Obviously, but many guys end up insulting a girl when they’re teasing.

Teasing can be done through words and/or with your body.

Any normal time circumstance is a good time to tease a little bit (don’t go teasing when she just had a bad day).

Just don’t overdo it otherwise you’ll come off as immature. No bueno (no good).

The idea behind teasing her is to just bust her balls lightly about something she does or something she says.

Try not to tease a woman on her appearance or fashion because they put a lot of time into it and it will hurt their feelings. The caveat is if it’s some physical quirk they do such as wiggling their nose when they laugh.

You can also tease a girl by punking them such as putting your hand out for a high five and then pulling it away when they go for it. Then doing it again and pulling away again.

And then doing it again and…[at this point she'll probably refuse to go for it], at this point you should just pull her in for a hug while saying “why nooottt, commee hereeee.”

Remember to keep it light, friendly and funny. Feel her out. If she isn’t laughing and having a good time then finish the tease quicker and move on.

Actually a rule for teasing is to not really wait for a response. Throw the tease and then move on. (Usually you’ll be moving on with the conversation AS she is responding to your tease i.e. laughing.)

Ideas For You To Use!

-You and your girl are walking together side by side. You have a big bag of chips in your hand (you’re eating it). Tilt the bag towards her as to ask her if she wants some. (Don’t say anything just offer the bag to her). Then as she reaches inside the bag to grab some chips, move is down slightly so that although her hand is still in the bag, the chips are just slightly out of her reach.

She’ll probably laugh. This is when you bring the bag of chips up again. She’ll try again to reach for the chips. This is when you lower the bag out of her reach again. Finally give it to her.

-Say I hate you while smiling and giving her a big hug.

-Putting your hand out for a high five and pulling away.

-When she does something funny say “You’re so cute”.

-If she trips, smile and say “you’re such a klutz”.

Be creative and come up with some of your own. Just be careful to not go overboard however. Too much and you’ll just end up being a clown. Just like anything in life, switching things up is key. In this particular case, switch off between teasing and more “real”, “heart to heart” talk. It will work wonders.

How To Make A Girl Fall In Love With You

This is an introduction to how to make a girl fall in love with you. In many ways, this article is an introduction to this site. This is site is all about mastering the art of attraction and love. Good luck my friend!

So there’s that girl. That girl.

She has you lovestruck and you want to know how to make her fall in love with you. You’re at the right place =]

Now I’m not going claim that what you’ll learn will DEFINITELY make her fall in love with you but I can guarantee that if you apply what I teach you here and on this site, chances are she will.

You will be WAY ahead of the other men (chumps) who are trying to get with her. Be prepared to hear her telling her friends, “[Your name], he’s just so different from all the other guys.” ;-]

Without further ado…

The first thing you have to start doing is to learn to be the prize. I first learned about this concept from the pick up artist Swinggcat. Being the prize really just means being the one with higher value. Being the chooser instead of the chosen. Being the selector instead of the selectee.

The great business philosopher Jim Rohn once said, “Success is something we attract by becoming an attractive person. It’s not something we pursue.”

This is the same with attracting beautiful women. We attract them… we don’t pursue them.

This is why we don’t try to “buy” their affection, attraction or love by buying tons of gifts for them.

We must position ourselves as the prize that they want to win over and seduce. We go into more detail on how to do this in future articles, but in the mean time here is one thing you may be doing that is KILLING your image of being the prize; KILLING your chances of being her lover…

The “Nice Guy” Syndrome

The nice guy needs to go. More accurately the submissive, cater to, agree with everything a beautiful woman says, “nice guy” inside you… needs to go. Tell him to go sit in the corner on timeout.

Beautiful women feel intense attraction toward those men who give them a sense of safety and security…but excitement at the same time. The bottom line is nice guys who do everything a beautiful woman wants does not fit this bill.

I mean just think: Would someone who did everything the way you wanted them to make you feel safe? What feeling does this person give you, a feeling of strength and fortitude or a feeling of flimsiness and weakness?

Chances are if someone is submissive, they don’t really stand up for themselves either.

Add this to the fact that women need a man who will protect her, and it’s easy to see why being the nice guy is horrible positioning for attracting women.

So “no more Mr. nice guy” is probably one of the most important dating tips for men you’ll ever learn…

I actually split this piece on how to make a girl fall in love with you into several pieces. (I know how discouraging it can be to see a HUGE page you have to read.)

But I do want to drive this point and a few more key points home though so right now you want to check my article, Guide To Flirting. I’ve included a video inside that article that I think illustrates the nice guy syndrome quite nicely.

PUA Routines: How To Get The Girl With Memorized Material

To be honest, I’m not really a big fan of routines anymore.

But I still think it’s good to have a few in the bag so that you can use them when you run out of things to say.

Here are some great pua routines you can apply immediately.

PUA Routines For Approaching/Starting Conversations

 

-“Hey guys to do you think it’s messed up to break up with someone through text?”

 

-In a humorous lighthearted way, approach a girl and say, “Damn are you shy or something? I’ve been there 15 minutes waiting for you to approach me!”

 

-“Does a drunk “I Love You” count?”

-Let them respond

-Then say “yeah because my friend [insert name] was really drunk last night and he told his girl he loved her, but this morning he uh.. took it back… Do you think he really meant it when he said it?

-Let them respond

-I’m thinking he probably did mean it but he just needed the liquid courage to say so. But the guy just had to take it back. What do you guys think about that? Is that messed up?

 

PUA Routines For Creating Attraction/Building Comfort 

After she does something cool put your hand out palms toward her to give her a high five. Pull away when she tries to give the high five.

She’ll laugh and probably say “wow”. At this time put your hand out again for another high five. She’ll refuse to give you one this time. So just laugh and say haha “why nooootttt, come here give me a hug!” and grab her close to you and give her a hug.

Click Here To Literally NEVER Run Out Of Things To Say!

Role-playing

Ex. “Hey have you ever heard about the underwater hotels in Fiji? Yeah, you get a room that you have to scuba dive to get to. Your room’s ceilings are all glass and so you can see all the fish and animals swim by… We’re going to go there someday. It’s going to be awesome. One day when you’re bored at work I’m going to just call you and say hey [insert her name]… come outside.

I’ll sneak you away. We’ll hop in a limo and go to the airport. Fly there overnight and then learn how to scuba dive in the day. I can’t wait to get inside the water. It’ll feel so refreshing…[have fun with this. Really paint a vivid picture. Remember to use feelings and emotions when you’re talking about it and use descriptive words. If you really get excited about the idea, she will as well.]

***Go read up on the underwater hotels in Fiji or any other interesting place for that matter.

So there you go guys, pua routines for you to apply. Hope that helps!

David DeAngelo Kiss Test



Hands down one of the most well known dating experts is David DeAngelo. This guys has contributed so much to the attraction and pick up community.

I’ve personally learned a ton from him. One of the first things I’ve ever learned from him was his “kiss test”.

In short, it’s an accurate test to see whether or not a girl is ready/wants to be kissed. Really simple but really powerful stuff.

Here is is:

The David DeAngelo kiss test*

*I’ve added some additional points below with my thoughts.

“I used to have no idea if a woman was ready to be kissed.

I could be sitting there talking to her, thinking to myself “Wow, her lips really look nice…” but I didn’t know what to do next. This would often leave me kissless, and many times kissless for good, as I didn’t get another chance.

Here’s what I do now:

If I’ve been talking to a girl, and I want to know if she’s ready to be kissed, I’ll reach over and touch her hair while we’re talking and make a comment about it. I’ll say “Your hair looks so soft” and just touch the tips of it.

If she smiles and likes this, I’ll reach back over and start stroking it again, but this time I also glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times. If she lets me keep touching her hair, I know that she’s ready to be kissed.

By using “The Kiss Test” I’ve been kind and complimentary, but by being very SUBTLE about it, I haven’t given her anything she can object to. I now have a way of knowing if she’s ready to be kissed that NEVER gets me rejected—and I know within 5 minutes what it used to take me hours or days to figure out…”

Click Here To Read More Of David DeAngelo’s Material

The David DeAngelo kiss test was one of the first kiss tests I have ever tried. It’s a good one. I think the key here is the increasing of sexual tension that is created when you touch her hair and glance at her lips and eyes. That’s really the essence of the David DeAngelo kiss test. In fact…

The key to any good kiss test is really the increasing of sexual tension. You want to introduce sexual tension and see whether she is comfortable or uncomfortable with it. I wrote another article Kiss Tests that shows you how to create this sexual tension without the need for words.

It’s what I believe to be the ultimate kiss test because it’s virtually fail proof. You probably want to read it ;] Check it out- Kiss Tests