“What the hell just happened?”

Then you waste hours of your time worrying about what you said or did that killed the interest. Is it possible to know EXACTLY what kills the interest for women and to avoid this
kind of heartache? It is, and it begins with understanding the top seven “Interest Killers…”

#1 Ego

When it comes to success in your dating life, your ego just might be one of your worst enemies. No one likes an egotistical person, especially not a woman when she’s looking for date. Talking only about yourself, interrupting or bragging are all signs of an over active
ego.

Check yourself on these points and make sure that your ego isn’t “Edging the Girls Out.”

How to Attract Women Tip: The best guard against this is to be a little mysterious and to get her talking more about yourself than you are talking about yourself.

#2 Neediness

This might just be the top interest killer of all time when it comes to attracting women. Yet so many men have a serious problem with being too needy. How do you need a woman to be interested in you? How bad do you need to impress her? To get her number? To get her into bed?

How available are you to her? All of these are signs that you’re too needy, and neediness is death to your momentum when it comes to landing dates…

#3 Hating Your Job

How many people have you known who absolutely hated what they did for a living? How pleasant were these people to be around and how much time did you want to spend with them?

If you’re always complaining about your job, your boss or the people you work with, you’re missing out on a LOT when it comes to your dating life.

How to Attract Women Tip: If you hate your job, there are probably a dozen reasons why you need to start looking for something else immediately. The heart attack rate is 30% higher on Monday morning and people who have bosses that they hate are more prone to stress-related illnesses.

#4 Talking About Your Ex

This is such an interest killer. If you are someone who is in the habit of talking bad about theirr ex, stop it immediately. Just stop. No matter how bad your past relationships are, you have to remember that everyone has had bad experiences in life. No one wants to add to their complications by having to listen to someone else and the THEIR bad experiences.

#5 Indecisiveness

Women of value are looking for men who are confident and know what they want. Indecisiveness, procrastination or expecting someone else to make your decisions for you are blaring signs that you are not confident that you don’t know what you really want.

How to Attract Women Tip: If you have fallen into the habit of indecisiveness in any area of your life, you might need to sit down and take some time to decide what you really want. This will help you cure a lot of indecisiveness and become more confident.

#6 Jealousy

Jealousy is more of a female defense mechanism than it is a male one. If you’re prone to jealousy, you’re sending a woman an indirect signal that you are lacking in security and masculinity. If you get jealous or insecure when other men are around, you need to find out why and get control of your jealousy before it destroys your dating life.

#7 Being too Interested

Yes this might sound ironic..but there is such a thing as being TOO interested in a woman.

If a woman sees that she can “have you whenever she wants,” she’s going to get bored very quickly and lose interest.

So as you learn how to attract women, be sure to check yourself on these seven and see where your weak points are. Then, get to work on changing them. This will increase your opportunities of attracting quality women into your life.

If you want to finally feel as though you have true selection over the choice of quality women in  your life, you’ll want to see this awesome video my buddy Josh made. Its one of the funniest, yet instructional videos I’ve ever seen on pickup. Here’s what you’ll learn:

• A little known “almost magic” secret to getting 9′s and 10′s into bed effortlessly
• 3 sexual trigger lines that will turn 97% women on uncontrollably the moment you use them
• 5 biggest lies about women that the media don’t want you to know

Go watch it right now:

http://vancelau.linktrackr.com/SevenTopInterestKillers

Vance

Enter the “Attraction Flowchart”.

Basically a little cheat sheet you can bring with you when you go out if you ever get stuck.

Gone are the days of scribbling on napkins =]. Your welcome ;]

Download Attraction Flowchart 

Vance

ps. The flowchart is a good complement to his “Could This Goldfish Help You Get Laid?” video. Have you seen it yet?

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“I’ve heard this tragic story far too many times…”

You can feel this excruciating moment coming on from a mile away.

The conversation with this cute girl started off great. She’s smiling,

laughing, clearly becoming more interested and more attracted as

you continue.

Then…it happens.

Call it a brain fart, a blank mind, a loss for words.The only thing that matters is, it brings the conversation to a complete hault and you can feel her attraction levels for you dropping faster than a drunk girl in stilletos.

“So, how about this weather huh?”

So what can you do to pull the conversational nose-dive back into the high flying interaction it was?

First of all, don’t plan ahead too much…

While it might be time to plan in advance what you’re going to say if an awkward silence occurs, this could also

end up making the interaction even more awkward.

However, there are a few things which you can say during an awkward silence that will always be appropriate for the circumstance.

Here are a few of them to have ready for those awkward moments:

1.  ”Ever wonder what makes an awkward silence so awkward?”

When you think about it, this is actually a really unique question and one which you could probably build

an interesting conversation around.

This is also a topic which might give you the opportunity to learn something about her personality.

“You know how you can really tell that you KNOW someone?” -wait for her to answer- “When the silences become comfortable between you. Have you ever noticed that?”

This again will give you an opportunity to learn more about her and will probably spark an interesting

conversation. Using these kinds of techniques will also make the silences less intimidating. This is because,

most things which seem uncomfortable are less uncomfortable once someone points them out.

This is true with awkward silences as it is with anything else uncomfortable between two people. By making

the uncomfortable silence a part of the conversation, you automatically make it less threatening.

TIP: Start asking these questions with people who you know and get a few viewpoints that you can share
when you’re with a new girl.

2. Get her to do the talking

We are pretty fortunate as men in that women like to talk. So if you play your  cards right, you really don’t have to

do much of the work in a conversation. All you have to do is know how to ask the right questions and is to be a

good listener.

The better listener you are and the more interested you are in what she has to say, the more comfortable she

will be talking to you. In fact, if you have her comfortable enough you’ll probably have a surplus of

conversation instead of awkward silences.

The key is knowing how to prepare your questions according to what she is talking about. If she’s telling

you about something she likes, ask her about why she likes it. If it’s something she doesn’t like, ask her

about why she doesn’t like it.

Asking “why” questions really help you to get to a root of a person’s character and understand them at a deeper

level. The more you do this, the more things she’ll say which will help you to think of other questions to ask

her.

Of course, it’s also important that you don’t make the common male mistake and give her generic one word answers.

If she asks you a question, don’t be afraid to open up to her and give her a good solid and detailed answer. You actually want to do this so you are still contributing value to the conversation.

Usually, the more open you are with someone, the  more open they are going to be with you, and the freer conversation is going to flow.

Once you get the hang of this, it’s going to transform the way you approach and interact with women you meet.

Vance

Cajun is arguably one of the greatest pickup artists in the world and he drops some serious golden nuggets in this video.

Golden Nuggets

• how to start a conversations with girls
• how girls want to get picked up
• how do GIRLS pick up guys (and how you can take advantage of it)
• How to create a sexual frame so you don’t end up being the buddy buddy

…and a whole bunch of other stuff. Check it out:

Give me your thoughts – I’d love to know what you think.

It gets even MORE exciting when you start thinking about what you learned on Joshua’s video, don’t you think?

Thanks,

Vance

By Vance Lau

Do you want to know how to please a woman both physically and emotionally?

Anyone who has had any experience at all with women know that there are definitely some secrets to doing this.

This is evident in how most guys try and please their woman by going out of their way to cater to her needs, buying her gifts, structuring their lives around her…

Since you’re here I’m guessing you have discovered that that simply doesn’t work…in fact, it hurts your chances of getting with her/hurts your current relationship.

In this article I am going to go over some readily applicable tips to really attract her and build solid chemistry between the two of you.

The Hidden Truths About Attracting Women

What if I told you that the secret to pleasing a woman is to NOT go out of your way to try and please her?

This seems pretty counterintuitive, I know. But the truth is, women are frequently throwing out tests (known as shit tests in the pickup community) to see if you have a backbone or not; if you will stand for your dignity, beliefs and values or will you quickly change just to appeal to her.

It may seem like you’re doing the right thing. That you’re trying to “make her happy”. But bottom line is, women want a man who can protect them and take care of them, so they are attracted to men who have a backbone and aren’t easily “bossed” around.

A big key to knowing how to please a woman begins with knowing when she is testing you so you can stick fast to your own values and beliefs.

When you confidently stick to your own value and beliefs, your attraction value shoots up fast.

After all you’re showing the woman that you are a strong and in control man.

This is attractive.

How To Please A Woman – The Emotional Side

Pleasing a woman emotionally is a perplexing task. To do so, you need to start understanding the indirect way women communicate. Guys are more logical and don’t really play any indirect communication “games”; we’re very straightforward for the most part.

Woman though are emotional and want you to see what they want by reading b/w the lines so you can meet those needs without her telling you to.

Seems like a tiring task doesn’t it? It would be unless you know what the two vital emotional needs of a woman are…

They are:
1) The need for certainty
2) The need to feel appreciated

It’s easy to tell that they are the most important if you simply pay attention to all the ads for women.

Things like make up and lotion and hair products. The corporations that write these advertisements spend millions of dollars to research what their buyers truly care about.

“FLAWLESS skin”. “BLEMISH free”.

Next time you’re confused as to what need your girl wants you to fulfill, just think to yourself: “Does she want to feel certain about something or does she want to feel appreciated/significant?”

How to Please a Woman – The Physical Side

The truth is if you are able to fulfill her emotional needs and show her you have backbone (passing her shit tests), she will be very open to getting sexual with you.

In fact it’s actually been supported by many, many different people that one of the keys to making a girl orgasm is to have her emotional needs met.

So if you really want to learn how to please a woman physically, make sure her emotional needs are met.

(Remember: certainty and appreciation/significance)

The real truth is that you don’t really need to use some “special” technique in the bedroom to make her climax…what you really need is to make her emotionally satisfied so she can “give” herself to you.

I’m TELLING you. This is the way it is.

So that concludes this article on how to please a woman. I hope it helped!

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By Vance Lau

Knowing how to have great conversations with a woman is attractive. In fact, many women often immediately write off a guy who can’t keep a conversation going. Here’s the kicker.

Often times, it’s the woman who is a bad conversationalist. They are the ones who have no flow and aren’t exciting or engaging in conversation.

But it doesn’t matter.

More often than not, they’ll put the blame on you. They’ll often offer no substance to the conversation and then go tell their friend how bad of a conversationalist you were.

But don’t worry, this article is about how to keep a conversation going with a girl.

The First Key To Mastering Conversations: The Art Of Threading

The most basic conversation technique is called threading. The idea is to use word associations to generate ideas or new “threads” for the conversation to go down.

For example, suppose I said “Christmas”. What would you think? You’d probably think something along the lines of “presents”, “dinner”, “fireplace”, or “family”. These are word associations.

Exercise 1:

1. Chocolate

2. Europe

2. Movie

Spend the next minute thinking up of as many topics related to those three words that you could talk about.

This is a skill you need to practice and develop. The ability to hear words and quickly associate a number of topics that you can go toward…preferably topics that you have some actual substance to talk about.

So this is the basic structure of a flowing conversation.

Ex. Person A says a sentence and inside the sentence are 3 topic words in it. Let’s say, chocolate, Europe, and movie. Related to these 3 topics are an additional however many topics. (Hint: your list from before)

So now you have 3 topics + the number of topics on your list to potentially talk about a.k.a. introduce a new conversational thread.

In the beginning, this whole process of using word association to find new conversation threads takes effort but eventually it’ll be automatic. Practice.

Does that make sense?

When you’re skilled at word associations and you really listen, having “things to talk about” suddenly becomes easy.

Just to get your mind jogging a little bit. Here are some key pointers for choosing topics to talk about.

Fun and Engaging Topics are what you are looking for:

-Topics you’re really interested in and you’re engaged in. If you can talk passionately about then it’s usually a good topic. Just don’t talk about your World of Wordcraft conquests or whatever. Remember you’re painting your image for a girl when you talk.

-Food

-Popular shows and movies

-Travel/places you want to go; it’s really powerful and engaging if you can paint the idea of going to some place exceptionally interesting. Ex. Instead of just saying I’d like to go to the West Coast (general), talk about how you’d like to go to the underwater hotel in Fiji (specific) and describe it in detail how it would be like according to what you read or better yet, what you’ve actually experienced.

-Where you see your future (if you’re ambitious; women love men who are progressive, pro-life, and ambitious – In fact since so few people are actually ambitious in life you’ll immediately set yourself apart if you truly are committed to chasing the dream i.e. becoming successful.)

Topics you should avoid are:

-Keep away from topics that are negative or inappropriate i.e. STDs, death, porn.

-You can talk about scary topics or things that make you fearful but don’t be negative. Nobody likes a complainer or a “victim” of life.

-Any self-deprecating (putting yourself down) topics.

Remember you’re learning to control conversations. Use your mind to locate word associations and create new threads. Oh and by the way, there’s no law that says once you start a thread you have to stay on it until the cows come home. Feel free to talk about whichever threads you are actually interested in.

Just as important as having topics to talk about is how you talk about these topics.

Important notes: When you say sentences try and include 2-3 topics so that the girl your talking to can jump onto a topic easily. I call this feeding the birds (haha).

A good way to practice conversation threading in the beginning is through instant messaging.

You have more time to think but it’s still “real time” in a way.

***Use statements more than questions*** 

Most men have it all mixed up. Many have never really learned how to have real conversations with women. What do they do wrong?

They don’t lead conversations through skilled statements; they just ask a lot of bad questions. And asking bad questions puts the responsibility and control of the conversation in the hands of the woman…who usually don’t take it very far.

The result is a boring and uninspiring conversation. But here’s the real kicker. The woman will almost always blame it on you. “Oh he couldn’t even keep up a conversation. Blah blah blah.”

Start changing your perspective about “getting to know somebody”. Most of the time men think getting to know someone is about asking questions like “Where do you live”, “What do you do”…no bueno [no good].

We’ll talk about asking skilled questions in a second but first to address: use statements more than questions.

Use statements that compel a response.

Do this by leaving pebbles (topics) and going deeper into your answers; answer on an emotional level, express with passion.

Have real substance to share. Not just facts you can get off a Facebook page.

Ex. Suppose a girl asks you: What’s your favorite chocolate? Instead of simply saying: dark chocolate. You could say something like. Dark chocolate. This one time, I went to Max Brenner’s Chocolate Restaurant in the city…[insert good story here].

Get it? Let’s move on.

There are ways to ask questions that are very skillful. You want to ask questions that relate to the human experience; questions that makes her think about how she feels, thinks or perceives a subject matter.

Getting a woman to share her feelings, emotions and perception of the world will create a connection between you two. Getting a women to share how she thinks about herself is also a good thing.

Ex.

Girl: I went parasailing last summer in Cancun.

You: Wow, that’s must have felt awesome. How’d it feel like being up there? What was going through your mind?

The objective here is to get the woman to reveal some of her inner perspectives and mental processes.

You want to avoid asking disconnected questions that can be answered with a yes or no or just a simple fact. Ex. What’s your favorite color? Red. Do you like to swim? Yes.

There’s obvious a time to ask these questions but in general don’t do it in the beginning before she thinks she’s on some CNN interview.

Final Points

-Don’t seem like you’re trying so hard. Silences are ALRIGHT! It’s just important to have comfortable silences.

Comfortable silence begins with you. If you’re at ease, they will feel compelled to be at ease. If you are looking away, fidgeting, not smiling then there will be an awkward silence.

Comfortable silences usually come after a great conversation. For example, you and the woman just shared a laugh and a story together. At this time, you can just look at her in the eyes and smile softly.

Guys this is one place where a strong connection is made!!!

Good conversation + looking into her eyes and smiling softly.

-Don’t mistake teasing with insulting. Many people in the pickup community suggest using negs a.k.a. negative compliments. This is ok if used correctly but for the most part I feel that guys just end up insulting the women.

This is no good. Don’t go making fun of a girl blatantly. You think it’s teasing/flirting but she will think you’re a little kid. We’re not in 1^st grade anymore.

She’ll know you’re hitting on her…and doing it really badly at that.

How To Keep A Conversation Going With A Girl – Conclusion

By Vance Lau

Hey guys,

Magic Bullets Handbook by Nick Savoy is basically the bible of attracting women. The system/model inside the Magic Bullets Handbook is the model that almost the entire pickup community has based their teachings off of.

Magic Bullets Handbook Review – A Quick History Of The Book

The model in the handbook called the Emotional Progression Model is the evolved form of the Mystery Method which is the original gold standard model of pickup.

The model is the compilation of knowledge from the world’s best pickup artists like Nick Savoy.

This book is one of the must read books so instead of giving a normal review I’m just going to give you the table of contents.

You have no choice but to read this book my friend haha. Seriously though, you’d be a fool if you don’t read this book.

Your understanding of the game and about attraction and seduction simply won’t be complete.

If you’re a beginner though, my advice is to first have read a good introduction book before this book. Something like ‘Double Your Dating‘ or ‘The Art of Approaching‘.

This is because this book is really, really in depth and from personal experience I found it a little overwhelming at first.

My thoughts when I first found this book (at the time known as The Venusian Arts Handbook) was, “Nah, that’s too friggin’ complicated”.

Read some more technique based/lighter books like Double Your Dating and get some experience first. But whatever you do, check out their page right now and bookmark the site because you will want to come back to it no matter what.

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Magic Bullet Handbook Review – What It Covers

Part I: Foundations

How To Use This Book

A Simple System You Can Use Tonight

Female psychology – how a woman’s mind is wired and how to use that to your advantage when attracting them

Part II: Overview of the Emotional Progression Model

Approaching (starting a conversation with a woman without getting rejected)

Transitioning (Transitioning from an approach based question like “what do you think about such and such” to having a normal conversation suited for generating attraction)

Generating Attraction (making her want you

Qualifying (making a girl win your approval)

Comfort (developing a deeper connection, rapport and chemistry with a woman; kissing and physical escalation is also covered here.)

Seduction (Starting a sexual relationship with a woman)

Relationships (How to maintain a passionate, sexual, and fun relationship)

Part III: Context

Direct Game (How to attract a women without using roundabout openers like “Hey what do you think of such and such”. As the name suggests it’s about being more direct)

Social Circle (cultivating a sexy social circle and gaming girls within it)

Day Game (Meeting and attracting women in a daytime setting as opposed to say a club or lounge)

Strip Clubs (getting with strippers)

Part IV: Skills

Physical Progression (Getting more and more physical)

Dates (having dates that make you more attractive and get you laid as opposed to making you look lame)

Storytelling

Non-verbal Communication

Kissing

Fashion & Grooming

Winging (How to have your friend “wingman or winggirl” effectively help you attract a women)

Phone Game

Magic Bullets Handbook Review Conclusion

The Magic Bullet Handbook is a must read if you’re serious about becoming extremely great with women. It’s a textbook of information and an amazing reference that you’ll come to look at again and again as you game girls.

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By Vance Lau

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Hey guys, this blog was created primarily for teaching you how to attract women but I am aware that some of my newsletter subscribers and viewers of this site wish to get back with their ex, rekindle lost passion, and things along those lines.

The best resource I can point you to for that is to go check out TheBreakupSolution.com.

In the meantime I wrote this 2nd Chance Review because I think it is a great resource for those who do wish to repair previous/current relationships.

I hope this review will show you whether your current situation will benefit from reading the book or not.

Like usual, remember that the secret ingredient to making this resource effective is YOU taking action on what you learn.

Without further ado, here is a break down of Mirabelle Summers’s 2nd Chance.

2nd Chance Review – An Overall Look And Highlights

For the most part, when we go through breakups it always seems like there is no hope of getting back together ESPECIALLY when the woman is breaking up with US.

In fact this is pretty evident considering much of the advice given to those just dumped center around ways to piece your emotions and life back to normal.

Obviously there’s another set of actions you can do as well and that is to plead, beg, and cling to your ex in hopes that she’ll come back.

Frankly this is stupid because it just lowers your value and makes you look weak.

But still, I can definitely understand why people would do this (emotions), but it’s ineffective and humiliating.

What you need to do immediately is to reposition yourself. That’s what this book is about. It gives you step by step instructions to reposition yourself as someone with high value and also as someone who has emerged from past mistakes as a stronger, better person.

The book also teaches you how to suppress your emotional urges to just beg for her which, by the way, lowers your value faster than she can say “I knew you were a loser and I definitely made the right choice to move on”.

2nd Chance is structured in 6 steps with each step helping you succeed in a certain area. From getting past mourning to regaining self confidence and her trust to creating attraction inside her to compelling her to get back with you fast.

In fact, after applying these steps, you may very soon find yourself in the “upper hand” ground.

I can’t see why you would but you will probably end up being the one deciding if you and her should get back together.

Here is an inside look at other “ah-ha!” moments inside this book.

-What to do when she straight out ignores you when you try to contact her.

-How to completely get out of the “let’s just be friends ok?” group.

-What to do after she’s moved on already and you still want her.

-How to deal with your ex who acts emotionally indifferent and uncaring towards you.

-The REAL steps to take when you think she doesn’t love you anymore.

I also have to say, this book was definitely made more insightful because it is a woman who wrote it.

Normally I think most women’s perspectives on “what attracts them” is pretty much misleading BS (they usually have NO clue what attracts them), Mirabelle Summers is definitely not one of those women.

She doesn’t write on a very surface level way at all (the “just show her you care” bs) and that’s one of the big reasons I like this book.

She goes really in depth in her instructions and the end result is that you know exactly why girls fall in love (and out), and what to do to compel your ex to fall back in love with you.

2nd Chance Review Conclusion

One final note before I conclude this 2nd Chance Review is to mention the bonuses Mirabelle gives.

Usually bonuses are thrown together quickly to seemingly “add value” but I felt her 2 bonuses were actually really great. (Yes, I’m surprised!)

They are about happiness and dealing with breakup emotional pain. Really good stuff.

In fact I really think these bonuses themselves will help you out tremendously.

Well that concludes this 2nd Chance Review, if you feel like this can help your current situation go ahead to the 2nd Chance Review page and grab a copy.

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Fireworks With Females Review

By Vance Lau

Hey guys, I’ve recently gotten the chance to check out ‘Fireworks with Females’ by Slade Shaw. It was a pretty good read and I wanted to write this review for you so you can see whether or not it will help out with your current circumstances.

Many people often wonder how they could learn about relationships and attracting women through a book. Well the reality is, you can. Books are a great way for people who are successful to share what they know with you.

It’s really easy to see how it’s a BIG shortcut to read proven techniques rather than going through trial and error yourself…as long as the person who is teaching you knows what he/she is talking about AND you TAKE ACTION.

Nobody can guarantee you’ll take action but yourself but I can at least give you a review of great resources.

Click Here To Check Out FireWorks With Females By Slade Shaw

Fireworks With Female Review – The History Behind It

Slade Shaw (the author) was the same way we once were or still am. He had an extremely difficult time getting girls. He always saw these guys who were “naturally” good with women and just couldn’t understand how they did it.

It is so simple to quickly write off that some people are just good with women and some people just aren’t. But ‘Fireworks with Females’ proves this to be untrue and in fact, if you’re thinking this, you’re sabotaging your success.

Inside the book, Slade explains in detail the painful process he had to go through to learn exactly what it took to attract women; a whole lot of very painful trial and error.

What he discovered was that the principles to making women want you is not some elusive, complex formula that only a select few can learn.

In fact, the principles are simple once you know exactly how and what to apply.

The guys who are “naturally” amazing with women apply these all the time, they just don’t know they do it and it’s difficult to see exactly what the principles are by just watching “naturals”.

Slade Shaw did just that though. He spent a ton of time watching those naturally good with women and applying what he thought worked.

Eventually after much trial and error he discovered exactly what worked to attract women and he recorded his results in the form of his book ‘Fireworks with Females’.

Fireworks with Females Goes Beyond Dating And Women

One reason I really liked this book was because Slade goes beyond dating principles and into deeper personal development.

I’ve always been a believer that to attract beautiful women into our lives we need to first be attractive ourselves. And that means going deeper inside ourselves and our own personal development.

Most men think it’s just about techniques, routines or lines but ‘Fireworks with Females’ will show you why this should NOT be your primary focus and what to actually focus on to create more intense attraction inside a women than any line or routine ever will.

Here is a sneak preview of a few golden nuggets you will learn and the various other “ah-ha!” moments you will get from this book.

I like how Slade goes into the real reasons most men kill their chances to generate attraction inside a women. He also reveals the under the radar words women use that let you know whether she is attracted or not.

I found this especially interesting because up until reading this book, I’ve generally only looked for body language signs.

Slade also goes into other specific techniques like how to use your voice tone in a way that attracts women.

Fireworks with Females Review Conclusion

This book was definitely a great read. I think if you are looking to really master the art of attracting women and increasing your options then the ideas and insights in this book should definitely be a part of your arsenal.

Just makes sure you’re ready for some difficult ‘ah-ha!’ moments when you realize some mistakes that you have been making.

Remember to take action!

Click Here To Check Out FireWorks With Females By Slade Shaw

By Vance Lau

The title of this post is quite obnoxious actually. Sorry about that haha. Just trying to be creative.

But listen, in this short post we’re going to talk about how to overcome approach anxiety.

I’m going to give you some mental frameworks to help you work with your approach anxiety and hopefully not have it hold you back from ever getting results.

Let’s get started.

So what is it about approaching women that gets us so damn nervous?

Do we get nervous about approaching ordinary looking girls? Usually no.

Do we get nervous about approaching guys to ask a question? No.

But we would probably feel anxious if we had to approach a big time boss of the company we want to work with.

We get nervous and anxious when we feel like there’s a possibility of rejection and the pain associated with that.

What we need to realize is that rejection is NOT toward us.

We also need to realize that beautiful women and approaching beautiful women are NOT the big deals we think they are.

How To Overcome Approach Anxiety – Remember…Rejection Is Not Toward Us

First remember that women reject our APPROACHES and NOT our actual being. I mean after all, how could they reject something they know nothing about.

Think about it this way. Imagine if you were a billionaire and a really good guy  with great values who lives a fantastic and awesome life.

You own private jets, fly across the world, have penthouses all over, get invited to the best parties BUT you’re shy and your approach with women is terrible. When you approach them, you’re body language is weak, you’re tonality is weak, and your opener is something generic (weak) like a “Hey how are you?”

Chances are you will be rejected. So let’s break it down. What was being rejected?

YOU or your APPROACH? It’s your approach.

The woman knows NOTHING about you and your billions of dollars and amazing lifestyle. They only know your approach and this is what they are rejecting.

How To Overcome Approach Anxiety – Remind Yourself…It’s Not A BIG Deal

If I told you to go tell that beautiful girl you always see at the convenience store that she just won $5,000 dollars would you be afraid?

I got news for you my friend, the value you are going to give her in terms of happiness, excitement, great sex, awesome experiences, etc, etc. is worth WAY more than $5,000 so stop being afraid.

If you don’t believe what you have to offer her is worth more than $5,000 then we got a problem. The truth is, what you have offer IS worth way more than $5,000 but if you don’t have the confidence to believe that then you probably won’t have the confidence to actually give her that value.

Confidence starts first with belief. You don’t need results to have confidence. You can have confidence purely by believing. So believe in yourself. “Fake it till you make it.”

Ok enough pep talk.

One Other Note 

We are creatures of habit. And you can actually develop the habit of overcoming approach anxiety. Make it a game. Every time you feel approach anxiety and you overcome it you win one time.

Every time you go through the process of overcoming the anxiety you are building and strengthening a neuro-pathway in your brain.

Eventually the neuro-pathway in your brain will be so solid, overcoming approach anxiety will be relatively easy to do.

In the end though…approach anxiety is an inner demon thing. Squash the pest and don’t think twice about it!

These mental frameworks and tricks really will work but bottom line is YOU need to go through the inevitable pain period. You need to make the damn decision to embrace possible rejection and relish the experience.

You need to be able to tell that little sissy side of you to go into a corner on time out.

I still feel nervous myself but because of my conditioned habit of overcoming the nervousness and approaching anyways, I am able to overcome more easily.

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