Learning how to approach a women is scary. I know.
The truth is, it’s nerve-wracking to talk to strangers. It’s especially nerve-wracking to talk to a stranger who also happens to be a really, really hot girl.
But be easy! I really think this article will help.
It’s going to teach you many of the ins and outs of learning how to approach a women and not get rejected. The information is here. You just need to apply it.
Oh and by the way, the fear starts going away ;-] Let’s go.
How To Approach A Women
by Vance Lau
There are two “main” ways to approach and start a conversation with a girl. 1) Direct approach 2) Indirect Approach
Direct approach is basically going straight in saying, “Hey”.
Indirect approach is more of a backdoor entrance by asking for opinions, using questions, commenting on a situation, etc.
In general, indirect approaches work way better because it is almost always successful.
(Because when you straight up say “hey” to a hot girl, they may interpret it as a pickup and get defensive but if you’re just asking a “question” they can’t really tell and would be considered rude if they didn’t address your question.
Moving on.
You have successfully approached a girl when you and her are able to talk about any number of topics i.e. having a “normal conversation”.
By the way, in pickup, we call approaching and starting a conversation with a girl “opening” her. The words you use to open a girl are called openers.
So in essence we have direct openers and indirect openers.
Direct Openers
I won’t go into direct openers too much b/c they’re pretty self-explanatory. You should really have fun with direct openers. Usually if you display a ton of confidence when using direct openers you already win tons of points because beautiful girls know most men are too afraid.
Say “hey” and get into normal conversation. “Hey! What brings you around here?” or “Woah, you’re very cute” (Say cute, NOT beautiful)
Keys to a successful direct opening
-Rock solid confidence
-Confident body language
-Confident smile
-Confident eye contact
-Did I mention confidence?
-Throw in a time constraint asap – (a time constraint is basically – “I only have a second before I have to get back to my friends). You do this so they’re not thinking “oh damn, how long is this guy going to be here. This gives you enough time to charm them enough so that they actually want you to be there. Get it?
Indirect Openers
Keys to a successful indirect opening
-question should come off as spontaneous
-Ask a question or make a comment that you would normally be comfortable asking anybody and not just a pretty girl. For example, you wouldn’t go up to a not so good looking girl and ask her where she got her dress from would you? NOT unless it’s for a specific reason which brings me to the next point…
-Justify your question. “Oh my good friend wanted black heels like that for Christmas, where did you get those?”
Other Key Points To Making Your Approach Successful
-3 second rule – do your best to approach a girl you see within 3 seconds of being physically able to. This will keep your anxiety low and also display confidence.
-Rock solid confidence, smiling and good energy will make almost all openers work. Who doesn’t want a confidence, smiling person with a good vibe to talk to brighten up their day?
-If applicable/if possible, before approaching a woman, be seen with women around you, be having a good time, smiling, laughing, telling stories. Don’t be in a group but looking around the room. (Are you bored with your friends…?)
So now that you know some of the basics to how to approach a women you want to get out there and practice! If you want even more step by step instructions then I recommend you go read “The Art of Approaching” by Joseph Matthews. It’s one the most in depth, long standing (almost a decade since first published), and continually updated manual on approaching women available.
This was one of the first books I ever read on dating.
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