By: Vance Lau
Most men would love to know the secrets to attract women.
Often times, the ability to attract women seems to be out of reach…a mystery.
This simply isn’t the case.
In fact, I want to clarify that the ability to attract women is not something we’re born with.
It just comes down to a skillset that can be learned.
So whether you have a ton of experience with women or you’re still a virgin, this article, “Secrets To Attract Women” will help you attract the women you’ve always wanted.
This article will give you action steps you can take and implement immediately.
Secrets To Attract Women
Body Language
Among all the secrets to attract women this may be one of the most important.
Women like confident men. I’m sure you’ve heard this before. But did you know your body language might be giving off a really weak, shy and insecure message? It’s been said that 93% of our communication is nonverbal and only 7% is through our words, so your body language must be the first thing to change.
Action Steps:
1. Start taking up more space with your body. When you sit, don’t have your legs/feet together. Instead open your legs and have your feet planted wider apart (2-3 feet apart).
2. Lean back a little.
3. Straighten your back and have your chest high. (Not obnoxiously though)
4. Keep your head level. Pointing your chin too up makes you seem like you’re looking down on people. Pointing your chin too down makes you look shady and insecure.
5. When you are talking to a girl don’t fidget with your hands (you may not even know that you do). Have your hands comfortably to the sides of your body (thumbs touching your index finger) or in front of you, fingers interlocked.
Watch Failure To Launch (the movie) and watch how Matthew McConaughey behaves. He has really alpha body language.
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How To Communicate With Women
Disqualify Yourself Quickly!
In general, you don’t want to show that you’re interested in the girl before she has shown you that she is.
In fact you want to “disqualify” yourself as someone who’s trying to hit on her ASAP. You can disqualify yourself by telling her how she’s going to be a great friend, or “you know you’re pretty cool, too bad you’re not my type otherwise I think we would’ve hit it off”.
It’s pretty counter-intuitive. Once you have disqualified yourself as someone trying to game her, the women will put her guard down and allow you to game her more effectively.
Connect Deeper By Relating Topics To The Human Experience
Most men just talk on a very factual, logical level. “Where do you live?” “What do you do?” “Do you like this, do you like that?”
No wonder conversations go stale. It sounds like a damn interview. What you should try to do instead is ask questions about how she felt about an experience, or thinks about a topic or about herself.
The example I always use is sailing. Consider the following dialogue.
You: So what do you like to do in the summer?
Her: Oh I go sailing off the coast.
Instead of asking another factual question right away like “What coast?”, develop the topic.
You: Oh wow, that’s neat. I’ve actually never been sailing before. How does it feel to be out on the open water? Is it scary or do you feel free?
Her: It feels so exhilarating and calming, blah blah blah.
You: Yeah I think I know what you mean. I went parasailing last summer and being so high up there was scary but also calming at the same time… so what coast do you sail off of?
Do you see how you just connected with her? You haven’t ever gone sailing before but you just connected with her because of the feelings and emotions. Plus you just introduced many topics for her to easily develop.
From this point on she can not only answer your question, but also just as easily ask you about your parasailing trip.
So this article revealed to you some secrets to attract women…what you need to do now is to get out there and practice! There’s no way around it if you want to get good. Good luck and I hope this helped!