Signs of Flirting: How To Tell If A Girl Is Interested (Extremely Accurate!)

Something I always get asked is, “Vance, how do I know if a girl’s flirting back with me? How can I tell if she is interested?”

I can’t think of a better way to answer this than with The Mystery Method’s signs of flirting.

(For those who don’t know, Mystery is a master pick up artist and one of the original pioneers of the entire pick up community.)

After reading this article, you will be able to tell with great accuracy if a girl is interested or not.

Oh and just as a side note, in the pick up artist community, signs of flirting are known as IOI’s or indicators of interest.

The following signs of flirting are from Mystery’s book “The Mystery Method”.

Source: Thanks to JSmooth from for compiling the entire list.

Active Signs Of Flirting

*She reinitiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you’re talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age (make her guess)
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She’s disagreeing but laughing
*She’s punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like something, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she’s looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
*On her way out, she re-approaches you to tell you that she is leaving (Get her #)
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going (Invite her)
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, interact with you, or have isolation with you

Passive Signs Of Flirting

*Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays
*She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods
*If you move, she follows you or waits for you
*She doesn’t flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close
*She doesn’t resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistence to avoid feeling like a slut)

The Most Important Signs Of Flirting

*She reinitiates conversation when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you

Watch out for these signs of flirting guys. Hope this helped!

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